There has been a lot of discussion about whether or not chivalry is dead, and I thought that I would weigh in on the topic, as this is something that I find rather fascinating.
Personally, I think that chivalry is alive and well, and perhaps more common today than it has ever been. However, I also believe that 9 times out of 10 the men who behave in a way that we think of as chivalrous in the classic sense, are unattractive to women, so they and their chivalrous behavior are completely overlooked and disregarded. These modern day chivalrous men are the guys often referred to as “nice guys” or “beta males” the type of guy who act “nice” because they are trying to “get” something from women because they are unable to attract women naturally, through just being themselves.
This behavior disgusts women, as explained in Jason Capital’s program Make Women Want You… The “ladies men” on the other hand realize that they don’t need to go overboard with chivalry, because women give them a great response either way. Today’s woman no longer sets chivalry as an expectation, and therefore has let men “off the hook” in that they are no longer required to behave in a chivalrous manner in order to win the affections of a lady. Sure, a gent who does well with the ladies may preform charming and chivalrous acts once in a while or even often, but while this behavior was once considered standard operating procedure it is now entirely optional.
Of course, there are still those women who demand to be treated in accordance with a traditional set of respectful behaviors, but in my experience these women are the exception to the rule. Indeed it is almost alarming to see just how little today’s young women are asking for from the men that they date. Why do the young ladies of today accept such boorish brutes? That is a question we may never fully know the answer to. Certain the MTV and breakdown of American family values plays a large role here, but I’ll stop myself before I launch into a full political rant on all of that.