How To Have More Power In Your Relationships

cuddling coupleRelationships can be one of the most wonderful and rewarding parts of life, but they can also be one of the most challenging when we feel like our partner has all of the power in the relationship. Ideally relationships should be balanced, with neither partner have too much of an upper-hand, but as anyone experienced in love will tell you it is easy for the dynamics to shift suddenly, leaving one partner feeling powerless.

One of the most important things to remember is that there are really several different kinds of “power” that people have in a relationship and that these different types of power can balance each other out. For instance, in more traditional relationships where the man worked and the woman stayed home to raise the children and look after the house the man had more “financial power” whereas the woman had other powers such as perhaps the power of sexual attraction.

Nurturing power is a type of power that both men and woman can possess, although it is often more associated with women. Someone with a lot of nurturing power has the ability to make the other person feel very safe and very loved in the context of a relationship. This power can create very strong bonds and keep ones spouse or lover almost addicted to the emotions that this power creates.

Another type of power is what Dating expert Vin DiCarlo (creator of the Pandoras Box system) calls dominant sexual power. And though Vin is a dating expert who works almost exclusively with guys (I believe), this type of power can be wielded by both men and women alike,  This is actually one of the rarer and most powerful powers and as with the power to nurture, people who have a great deal of dominant sexual power can become almost addictive because of their highly dynamic energy.

Really the best way to have more power in your relationships is to become a more powerful person, and stop worrying so much about how powerful your mate is in relation to you. Figure out what your greatest relationship power is, and then work on building it and making it just a little bit stronger every day.

Seeing Beauty In Photography

waterfall photographHeart-wrenching images of people caught in the crossfire of war. Awe-inspiring photos of the wonder of nature. Beautiful, quieter pictures of motherly love, or the simple beauty of a girl in complete and total happiness. Throughout the years, man’s history has been expressed through the power of photography. Many men have gone ahead, picked up their cameras, and captured images of total wonder and beauty, freezing these moments in time and history.

That’s why photography has remained one of the most popular hobbies for men. There is a lot of potential in the art and craft, and a lot of skill involved. For one, you will have to master the technical process — of learning to how to use the light to your advantage, using lines, patterns, and color for maximum impact in your pictures; adjusting the aperture, shutter speed, white balance, and all those other technical specifications.

But more than that, you learn to connect with the humans you are photographing. You want to convey what they are feeling and make those emotions leap out at the viewers of your images. You learn to be more humane; you learn to connect with your subjects, talk to them, know who they are and what they are feeling. That translates dramatically to your images, and that’s what makes your photos more profound.

There are many areas photographers can get into, depending on their interests. Some go into portrait photography, preferring to capture the soul and essence of their subjects. Others like wedding photography, wanting to capture those joyous moments for the preservation of the happy couple. Some like the glitz and glamor of fashion photography, and styling models to get a cover-worthy shot.
Some photographers take the leap into photojournalism, preferring to be right in the middle of the action and watch history unfold. They capture images of war and conflict, showing the human tragedy and the human triumph. Their photographs can change the world: spur a country to get into action and stop a war; urge people to protest against unfair institutions; topple a dictator. What kind of craft has the power to do something like that?

Learning photography is an exploration of the human self, the technical craft, and the chance to discover more about other people. You get to travel, see new things, explore beauty, and see it wherever you go. It’s an eye opening hobby that’s kept men hooked for decades.